One of the most common reason women come to me is for help making a career decision.
They are spinning in indecision about choices such as:
Staying in or leaving their job.
Increasing or decreasing hours for family reasons.
Changing fields
Doing extra study (Masters, PhD)
If they should go for a new job or promotion
At the root of indecision is being smart enough to think through all the pros and cons!
A new skill you need is to know exactly what YOU want and then to get your mind on board to support and enable you to act.
You know when you wake up and just want to stay in bed all day?
You might be sick, exhausted, have chronic conditions or be emotionally flat or anxious.
Maybe it's PMS or some family issue.
Whatever the reason, it's normal to have days when you feel blah.
It is part of life's 50/50.
Confidence is trust in yourself.
Do you struggle with a lack of self-confidence at work?
I think we have a strange idea of what confidence is.
Yes, it is about a positive view of ourselves and our capacity but to me, it's more than that.
Confidence is about trusting ourselves to be able to be resourceful and to survive or even thrive under difficult circumstances.
Building confidence can start very simply and powerfully by looking back at all the times you were resourceful and persisted.
Now that I'm feeling settled into the year a bit more, I've realised that I'm not using my time nearly as well as I could be.
I'm not saying this from a perfectionistic approach, I'm saying this from a.... whoops, I stopped paying attention and my day disappeared realisation!
You know how it is, you get a little less conscious of organisation or of following through with your plans.
Before you know it, you're losing chunks of time that you could be doing great things with!
If this is you, join me today to begin to reset.
Do you find yourself going round and round with the same thoughts that make you mad, sad or anxious?
Here is a fun tool that I learned from Dr Martha Beck - Your Greatest Hits.
Listen in on your mind as it goes down its usual path that takes you from, say, 'I wish that had gone better' all the way to 'I'll never be good enough'.
You might notice that you go through the same 'Greatest Hits' thoughts each time.
Working effectively with fear can transform your relationships, career and happiness, but it's also essential for big picture work. I'm talking really big picture, like healing race relations and addressing climate change. If you want to make positive change in society, you need to know about how to work with fear. So let's get cracking, there's a world to save!
What is with finding comfort in things that make us feel bad? Today is all about (dis)comfort zones. We all have unhelpful habits that we repeat over and over. It's uncomfortable and frustrating, but in some weird way, it feels good, or at least the familiarity of it feels good. It's a (dis)comfort zone. The crappy (but useful) behaviours and things we choose because, well, we are used to them and they do the job of making us forget about our problems for a time. So how do you see your (dis)comfort zones and get the hell outta there?
Life coaching is still a bit of an unknown. As one of my clients said, prior to our first session she thought ,'What the hell is a life coach, anyway?'. I can't say I could have answered this myself before I entered the world of coaching. To answer this and other burning questions about coaching, here's the inside info, including what a life coach is and what a life coach definitely is not, what to watch out for and how to choose the right coach for you.
It's true, some people are ambitious in such a way that they leave a wake of destruction. They kiss up and kick down. They want that next shiny thing so badly they will do almost anything to get it. It really gives ambition a bad name! In fact, it's not ambition that is the problem, but the motivation and internal state of the person. So how can you enjoy your ambition, reach for the stars and not be an as*hole?
Has anyone ever pointed out that you are 'sensitive' or implied that you are fussy or high maintenance? It's generally not a complement in our society, but sensitivity is actually a really valuable trait! When you push through and try to ignore it, like we are so often asked to do, it can have serious impacts on our lives. This post is vital reading for more sensitive souls and the people that love them. A special shout-out to men, who will have been barraged with messages to hide sensitivity. You might not even realise you are!
I don't want to brag, but I could have claimed gold at the worrier's Olympics. It was crapola and left me feeling exhausted and on edge. You may not be an Olympic level worrier like I was, but we all worry sometimes. This blog will give you the three keys to dealing with worry and the biggest pitfall to avoid.
