One of the most common reason women come to me is for help making a career decision.
They are spinning in indecision about choices such as:
Staying in or leaving their job.
Increasing or decreasing hours for family reasons.
Changing fields
Doing extra study (Masters, PhD)
If they should go for a new job or promotion
At the root of indecision is being smart enough to think through all the pros and cons!
A new skill you need is to know exactly what YOU want and then to get your mind on board to support and enable you to act.
You know when you wake up and just want to stay in bed all day?
You might be sick, exhausted, have chronic conditions or be emotionally flat or anxious.
Maybe it's PMS or some family issue.
Whatever the reason, it's normal to have days when you feel blah.
It is part of life's 50/50.
Confidence is trust in yourself.
Do you struggle with a lack of self-confidence at work?
I think we have a strange idea of what confidence is.
Yes, it is about a positive view of ourselves and our capacity but to me, it's more than that.
Confidence is about trusting ourselves to be able to be resourceful and to survive or even thrive under difficult circumstances.
Building confidence can start very simply and powerfully by looking back at all the times you were resourceful and persisted.
Now that I'm feeling settled into the year a bit more, I've realised that I'm not using my time nearly as well as I could be.
I'm not saying this from a perfectionistic approach, I'm saying this from a.... whoops, I stopped paying attention and my day disappeared realisation!
You know how it is, you get a little less conscious of organisation or of following through with your plans.
Before you know it, you're losing chunks of time that you could be doing great things with!
If this is you, join me today to begin to reset.
Do you find yourself going round and round with the same thoughts that make you mad, sad or anxious?
Here is a fun tool that I learned from Dr Martha Beck - Your Greatest Hits.
Listen in on your mind as it goes down its usual path that takes you from, say, 'I wish that had gone better' all the way to 'I'll never be good enough'.
You might notice that you go through the same 'Greatest Hits' thoughts each time.
How we feel about our work is one of those things that can really impact how we feel about ourselves. Yes, our work lives are really important BUT we tend to confuse our self-worth with the success of our careers.
No matter where you are on the spectrum of loving to despising your work, you need to know how to protect yourself from this trap of work = my worth.
Here are five pitfalls to avoid and one to hold close for more contentment and self-security.
Experiencing periods of uncertainty in life are completely normal and unavoidable. They are also frustrating and challenging!
I have done serious time in these phases (and will, no doubt, be in them again). Thankfully, I've had some extra breakthroughs and clarity recently that I trust will help you a lot too.
Here are five ways to deal gracefully and proactively with uncertainty so that even when you feel like you're standing still you keep progressing.
Well my loves, this is a FUN one.
The other day I was having lunch with a fabulous woman indeed. She was talking about how she wanted to write her friend's CV for her.
You see, her friend couldn't see how great she was, how her experience could be applied to so many different fields. How much CONFIDENCE she should have in herself and her abilities.
Could you be that friend? Do you have one of those friends?
Even if you're not short on confidence, I bet you don't sell yourself as well as you could.
Like it or not, there's some emotional prep work to do before we move from one role or career to another. You don't want to turn up in the next space a twisted bag of bitterness or a sobbing mess, missing your old work (even if you were ready to leave)! Often, there's a little baggage to let go of and some treasures to take forward. If you're thinking about a new career move or have just made one, make sure you do these two things to supporting your wellbeing and to go into your next role firing on all cylinders!
Let me guess, you're job is past its 'best before' date and is starting to become a drag BUT you either don't know exactly what to do next or you want to stay on a bit longer for some reason.
Rather than just go through the motions, feeling like you are killing time, today's post is all about how to get the most out of your current job before you make your next career move... up, across, down or jumping somewhere else entirely!
In fact, this week's blog is the first in a series designed to help you maximise value from your current position and support your transition to where you really want to be.
So let's jump into it!
If there's one thing I know for sure, it's that physical work environments matter. They influence our mood and energy levels day in and day out, but often get overlooked. You can't necessarily control the whole workspace we are in, but you can control your corner of the world.
If you'd like to feel happier, more focused and energised at work, here are five things you need in your workspace now!
"Oh, I'd never do that just for me" - Wow, this scenario came up time and time again talking with people over the holidays. Do you treat others better than you treat yourself? What do you do for others that you don't do for yourself? This scenario shines a light on what you think you are worth spending time, money, love and energy on. It's time to live like you are really worth it, but first you have to see where you are shortchanging yourself.
