One of the most common reason women come to me is for help making a career decision.
They are spinning in indecision about choices such as:
Staying in or leaving their job.
Increasing or decreasing hours for family reasons.
Changing fields
Doing extra study (Masters, PhD)
If they should go for a new job or promotion
At the root of indecision is being smart enough to think through all the pros and cons!
A new skill you need is to know exactly what YOU want and then to get your mind on board to support and enable you to act.
You know when you wake up and just want to stay in bed all day?
You might be sick, exhausted, have chronic conditions or be emotionally flat or anxious.
Maybe it's PMS or some family issue.
Whatever the reason, it's normal to have days when you feel blah.
It is part of life's 50/50.
Confidence is trust in yourself.
Do you struggle with a lack of self-confidence at work?
I think we have a strange idea of what confidence is.
Yes, it is about a positive view of ourselves and our capacity but to me, it's more than that.
Confidence is about trusting ourselves to be able to be resourceful and to survive or even thrive under difficult circumstances.
Building confidence can start very simply and powerfully by looking back at all the times you were resourceful and persisted.
Now that I'm feeling settled into the year a bit more, I've realised that I'm not using my time nearly as well as I could be.
I'm not saying this from a perfectionistic approach, I'm saying this from a.... whoops, I stopped paying attention and my day disappeared realisation!
You know how it is, you get a little less conscious of organisation or of following through with your plans.
Before you know it, you're losing chunks of time that you could be doing great things with!
If this is you, join me today to begin to reset.
Do you find yourself going round and round with the same thoughts that make you mad, sad or anxious?
Here is a fun tool that I learned from Dr Martha Beck - Your Greatest Hits.
Listen in on your mind as it goes down its usual path that takes you from, say, 'I wish that had gone better' all the way to 'I'll never be good enough'.
You might notice that you go through the same 'Greatest Hits' thoughts each time.
I will never forget the day when I realised that working in research in a university was essentially like being a solopreneur - you need to find your own research income to fund anything you want to do.
I had not signed up for this. I was from a long line of salaried employees, thank you very much.
I did not want my job security resting on the outcome of hyper-competitive grant submissions.
I did not want to be in competition all. the. time.
But I was and, since I am still in part-time research, I still am in the competition.
If you're in a competitive work environment and it is draining or stressing you this post will help you get your bounce back and thrive at a higher level. Here are three steps you can take today!
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It's no joke that work is getting more intense these days (there's research to prove it), so given what's happening in our workplaces, what can we do to protect our wellbeing, to find peace in our hectic work days?
This blog is about dispelling the major myth around feeling peaceful at work and giving you a range of ways to find peace in your day. I want you to be able to pick the ones that feel good to you and give them a whirl (extra points for picking what you resist but you know would work).
Let's do it!
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It's #loveyourbody week and I have a special treat for you!
Over and over again, I'm hearing the harsh thoughts that clients - women AND men have about their bodies. The time they spend criticising and shaming themselves, trying different diets and regimes, not going for bigger opportunities at work because they don't want to be seen.
I caught up with Claire Middleton OAM - founder of the Butterfly Foundation - earlier this week to talk all about body satisfaction, eating disorders and how to learn to love what lies beneath as well as our bodies.
Photo: Ina Soulis
Checking in with a great friend the other day, I heard a familiar tale. She'd just landed her dream job, a role she'd been working towards for at least a year.
Success was sweet! Joy filled the air!
Until it didn't.
Strange but true, dream jobs can really press our buttons.
She was anxious and unfocused.
What the hell was going on? Isn't this meant to be amazing?
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The other week I was walking with a new friend when she told me about her work situation.
She is burnt out.
Keen for a change.
Unsure about what to do next and actively looking for new roles.
Enter exciting news: She was offered a new job!
Same money, less work and stress... but instead of being relieved and excited for the new position, her mind was spinning and she felt uneasy.
Photo: Matthew Hamilton
It's International Friendship Day and this needs to be said.
Staying with awesome colleagues is not a good enough reason to stay in a role you hate or a company you can't stand.
YES, great friends make doing a mediocre job better, but they are a bandaid solution - what you really need is to find a better role that fits you brilliantly.
You deserve a job or business you love AND great people around you, not either or.
Every week someone shares with me me that they want a more fulfilling life.
It's something we all want - a life that is more that just okay, one that fills us up with joy, meaning and purpose.
'How can my life be more fulfilling?' can be an overwhelming and paralysing thought - it feels so big and nebulous - but there is always one surefire way (among many) to create more fulfilment.
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There's someone I know who was unhappy at work for a looong time. His catchphrase was "I don't live to work", as if this meant that he didn't have to like his job because it wasn't his life.
Work wasn't his whole life, but like it or not, it was a huge part of it.
The research is clear about the effect of work in our lives.
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