One of the most common reason women come to me is for help making a career decision.
They are spinning in indecision about choices such as:
Staying in or leaving their job.
Increasing or decreasing hours for family reasons.
Changing fields
Doing extra study (Masters, PhD)
If they should go for a new job or promotion
At the root of indecision is being smart enough to think through all the pros and cons!
A new skill you need is to know exactly what YOU want and then to get your mind on board to support and enable you to act.
You know when you wake up and just want to stay in bed all day?
You might be sick, exhausted, have chronic conditions or be emotionally flat or anxious.
Maybe it's PMS or some family issue.
Whatever the reason, it's normal to have days when you feel blah.
It is part of life's 50/50.
Confidence is trust in yourself.
Do you struggle with a lack of self-confidence at work?
I think we have a strange idea of what confidence is.
Yes, it is about a positive view of ourselves and our capacity but to me, it's more than that.
Confidence is about trusting ourselves to be able to be resourceful and to survive or even thrive under difficult circumstances.
Building confidence can start very simply and powerfully by looking back at all the times you were resourceful and persisted.
Now that I'm feeling settled into the year a bit more, I've realised that I'm not using my time nearly as well as I could be.
I'm not saying this from a perfectionistic approach, I'm saying this from a.... whoops, I stopped paying attention and my day disappeared realisation!
You know how it is, you get a little less conscious of organisation or of following through with your plans.
Before you know it, you're losing chunks of time that you could be doing great things with!
If this is you, join me today to begin to reset.
Do you find yourself going round and round with the same thoughts that make you mad, sad or anxious?
Here is a fun tool that I learned from Dr Martha Beck - Your Greatest Hits.
Listen in on your mind as it goes down its usual path that takes you from, say, 'I wish that had gone better' all the way to 'I'll never be good enough'.
You might notice that you go through the same 'Greatest Hits' thoughts each time.
How are you living your life?
Since the car accident I had four months ago, I've been working out how to live the new version of my life.
I have this atypical concussion thing going on - it looks like me getting overstimulated living normal life out in the world and passing out a whole lot. Sunlight kills me and can't go anywhere busy or noisy. I can't drive. Everything overstimulates my system except being at home, well rested and low key.
I should be depressed but I'm not.
I'm living the shit out of my life.
Happy February everyone!
It feels like the year has really begun, so I want to know, how is your big project going?
What's your big project?
Didn't know you had one?!
Watch the video below to find out all that and more :)
Photo by Vadim Sherbakov on Unsplash
It's so easy to move between years without taking a moment to check-in.
So, I'm going to ask you to take that moment now.
To help you move into the New Year with confidence and clarity simply ask yourself the following four questions.
Photo by Brigitte Tohm on Unsplash
There seems to be a certain romance about 'finding our purpose' - it’s like the mystique that comes with discovering hidden treasure, as once we find it, we feel we’ll know exactly what to do to live a holistically richer life.
After 25 years I'm proud to say that I’ve finally found it, but it wasn’t what I thought it was. So to help you find yours, here's what I've finally understood about purpose and the journey towards it.
It’s not only having children, but also trying to conceive them or deciding not to have them at all that can throw your working life up in the air for reappraisal.
You may feel others start to question your career, while you question your bigger purpose in life and what you really want.
This can be particularly true if family plans don’t come together the way you hoped, or how others close to you had hoped.
Today’s blog is for women who are struggling with conceiving and/or carrying a baby, those who decide parenthood isn’t for them and everyone else who would like to support them.
Photo: Daniela Rey
Does this feel familiar to you?
You get quiet, listen to nudges and start getting the sinking feeling that what you are being called to do (whether you see this as in internal longing or part of something bigger) is not what you want.
It sucks but it happens quite a lot.
It happens to me semi-regularly.
Photo by Christian Holzinger
Here's my imperfect take on how to be a force for progress and fairness in these crazy times, even when it feels scary.
It feels like a lot of horrors are coming to the surface right now in the world.
It brings up our own experiences, fears and sorrows.
We can feel powerless, hopeless and overwhelmed.
That's because horrors aren't evenly spread across our world or our country.
It depends on our location, the colour of our skin, our religion, our sexuality, our gender, our incomes and so on.
But it occurred to me that despite how sad and infuriating and bloody awful things can be there is plenty of work we can do that is simple and influential. Political activity is always part of this but this blog focuses on what you can do everyday that will become simple, powerful and useful in creating positive change.
Photo: Roman Kraft
It's mental health week and Lord knows it is a complex subject. There are so many reasons that we may experience anxiety, depression, PTSD, bipolar and other mental health problems.
I've become increasingly open about my own struggles with mental health problems, particularly anxiety.
I am an expert on anxiety!
I'm so grateful for the professionals and loved ones who have supported me work through the worst of it so that I am mostly very content and well today (and I know how to get back on kilter when I wobble).
Trust me when I say we can't afford to ignore our mental health.
Thankfully there is simple wisdom that we can all apply to make our mental landscape a million times better!
Photo: Brooke Cagle
